A small kindness to your future self

The friend who googles them for you, but better.

A gentle, thorough background check before your first date. So you can show up curious, not anxious.

Start a check  →Peek at a report
From $9 · 3 minutes · No account required
What you get

A short, kind report. Not a dossier.

We pull together what’s already public — quietly, quickly, and without notifying them — and write it up the way a thoughtful friend would.

Tuesday’s coffee
Marcus, 32
Worth a chat
He is who he says he is.
Name, age, neighborhood — all check out.
No criminal record.
Clean across county, state, and federal.
Two dating profiles he hasn't mentioned.
Tinder Plus and Feeld, last active this week.
His main photo isn't his.
Reverse image found it in a 2021 Reddit post.
How it works

Three minutes. That’s it.

01
Tell us what you have
A name. Maybe a photo or an email. We'll work with whatever you can share — even just a screenshot of their profile.
02
We do the looking
40+ public sources, in parallel. They'll never know we were there. You can close the tab — we'll email when it's done.
03
Read it on the train
A short, plain-English report. Green is good, yellow means ask a question, red means stop and reconsider.

“I used to spend two hours stalking someone before a first date. Now I spend nine dollars and read a one-page summary on the way to the bar.”

— Sasha, Brooklyn · used trustmy.date 11 times
Pricing

Pay only when you need it.

Curious
For "let me just check"
$9per check
· Username & breach scan
· Reverse photo search
· In about 60 seconds
Choose Curious
· Most picked
Considering
For "this seems serious"
$29per check
· Everything in Curious
· Identity & criminal records
· Marriage records
· In about 3 minutes
Choose Considering
Committed
For "we're moving in"
$79per check
· Everything in Considering
· Real human review
· Phone & email pivot
· Within 24 hours
Choose Committed
The promises

We are quiet.
We are careful.
We forget.

The person you check is never contacted. We don’t send a “they searched for you” email. We don’t share what you told us — not with them, not with each other, not with anyone.

Your report is yours for 30 days, then permanently destroyed. We don’t keep copies. We don’t train models on it. It just goes away, the way a good secret should.